So here we are…waiting on a few documents (our homestudy report and child abuse clearance form) before the mass notarizing process begins. Although I’m anxious about getting through all of this, the waiting is easier than expected. Why? Because we haven’t been matched yet. Once that happens, this waiting-around becomes much more difficult.
As soon as we’re matched (and I hope it’s soon) CCAI http://www.ccaifamily.org/ will call us to share our child’s medical history. At that time we have the option to accept the proposed match, or wait for another alternative. It’s a good process since it enables the adoptive parents to make an educated decision rather than keeping it purely emotional. Obviously, there is no guarantee your kid will be an exact match, but gathering evidence is the best defense against future strife. As much as I hate to say this, some kids don’t belong with certain families and vice versa.
During this waiting time, Reece and I continue to knock around names for Little Panda. Here’s a short list of our favorites:
Okay the last three are my idea and have zero possibility of being Panda’s name but I still love em. Alivia looks like the real deal but the rest are still contenders. I’m sure once we meet our little one, her name will naturally fall into place. Whatever we call her, Panda’s middle name will remain Chinese. Since China is her birth place, Reece and I feel this will keep our youngest daughter close to her roots.
Now that the dossier is in motion and there’s time to breathe, we are seriously brainstorming ways to fund this adoption. Reece and I agree that asking for donations is difficult. Nobody was holding a gun to our head when we made the decision to adopt internationally. As Theresa said, “Couples go through all sorts of expensive procedures (i.e. in vitro fertilization) in order to have kids and you don’t see them asking for donations.” So how do you ask friends, family and others to give their hard-earned money to such a cause? There’s no easy answer here, but we both agree that whoever gives, should get something in return.
The question is what? What would be a good thing for people to get back for helping Reece and I out with this adoption? One idea came from this website: http://chromebuffalo.com/pages/how-it-works Basically, Chrome Buffalo allows us (or anyone) to sell designer T-shirts with part of the proceeds going directly to the adoption. Once in place, we will have eleven days to get as many sponsors as possible with each sold T-shirt providing eleven bucks towards our cause. I think it’s a cool idea, especially since sponsors get something in return other than just gushy feelings. Since I’m writing this blog and have a Facebook account we figured, “why not reach out into cyberspace for help?”
Another idea we’re kicking around is using my birthday to help springboard donations. Since I’m turning forty this year, why not bring Little P into the celebration? There’s a couple ways we could tackle this (simple party, silent auction, clown rodeo, etc.) Silent auctions are great, but for that to happen, we would need to find a lot of cool stuff to bid on.
Did I mention I know Nick Lachey? No kidding. The only problem is…I haven’t seen or talked to him in over thirty years. If I could somehow remind Nick of our friendship, then perhaps a silent auction would work. Heck—one pair of his boxer-briefs alone would bankroll our fare to China!
Speaking of fundraising, one heart-warming donation occurred this week…
Our kiddos attend Immaculate Heart of Mary http://ihm-ky.org/ where fundraising is commonplace. This week the entire school took part in Tag Day where kids can spend a day out of uniform for twenty-five cents. All the money from Tag Day went straight towards our adoption.
How awesome is that?
Whenever I hear “this world is full of evil,” humans are parasites,” “people aren’t like they used to be,” I’m reminded of things like Tag Day, and guess what? All of those negative, miserable voices lose their power. I believe that people are generally good. Do you agree? If not, take a look here: (Be patient—it takes awhile to load)
Amazing what one group can do when joined by a common purpose!
We all have the ability to change lives. Some (like Gandi or Nelson Manela) change nations while others provide hope in the little things.
In my humble opinion (IMHO for those who text) the meaning of life is to use your gifts for the benefit of others. Even one pair of undies can make a difference.
You getting this Nick?