Been feeling kinda lost lately. Not because I’m forty…I’m over that for the time being…or at least until I hit fifty. When I say lost, maybe what I mean is–overwhelmed. Life can do that. You get all geeked up over small, trivial things until they take over your mind creating a reactionary robot instead of a present being of thought and action. I hate that this world wires us to live like scurrying mice, running through our hectic days as though every conceivable ounce of time should be efficiently spent. And what are we doing during those “efficient” moments?
Finding pictures of cross dressing cats on bing images, apparently.
We really over-estimate our importance don’t we? When I think of all the time I spend updating Facebook, looking through my emails, checking voicemail and even writing in this blog it makes my head spin. When did this happen? When did our lives become hyper driven? Better yet…how do we stop?
I have tried putting away my smart phone, turning off the laptop, forgetting about my profile on Linkedin, but a few days, hours or even seconds later I’m at it again–checking Facebook or answering the buzzing phone. It’s beyond choice now. This world has conditioned me to do idiotic things like text while I’m driving (yeah, I hate to admit it but I do it), check the I-net during commercials and message friends during play time with my kids.
That last part really stings. I don’t want my kids seeing a father who appears absent, uncaring, distracted, aloof. What message is that sending them? That they aren’t important? This sudden awareness of my habits comes during a busy time in my life. To be fair, there are times when I need to multi-task and when the kids need to take a back seat, but those times are far and few between and I need to start thinking of how to be present with my family…but how?
I need to start asking myself: “What is really important here?” Is texting back a friend really worth plowing into a telephone pole at eighty miles an hour? Is deleting all of those voice mails or emails more important than playing with my son?
It’s simple, really. But like most simple things, putting it into practice is not so simple. Eckhart Tolle has made a career on this advice: Be present and in the moment, always. I admit that such a mantra doesn’t make much sense when you’re charging through a day of work schedules, dropping kids at school, managing a budget, working out, supporting your spouse…add to this the adoption process and organizing a large party and you have a sure recipe for chaos. But there is an eye to every hurricane. and I am gonna try my best to find it each day and every moment.
What are the storms that keep you from being present? What are you gonna do about them?
Here’s one idea: